If you find yourself putting others’ needs far above your own, struggling to set boundaries, or feeling responsible for others’ emotions, you might be experiencing patterns associated with codependency. This self-assessment offers a private and supportive way to reflect on how you relate to others, especially in close relationships.
Codependency is not a formal mental health diagnosis, but it is a recognised relational pattern that can have a deep impact on emotional wellbeing. It often develops when someone prioritises the needs, feelings, or problems of others at the expense of their own — sometimes without even realising it.
This pattern may include difficulty setting boundaries, a fear of rejection or abandonment, low self-worth, and a strong desire for approval or acceptance. People who experience codependent traits often feel responsible for the wellbeing of others and may struggle to say no, ask for help, or care for themselves without guilt.
Codependency can form in any kind of relationship — romantic, family, friendship, or professional — and often stems from early life experiences, such as growing up in an unpredictable, emotionally unavailable, or overly demanding environment.
These behaviours are not signs of weakness or failure. They are often protective patterns that made sense at one time, but no longer serve you in the present. The good news is that codependency is changeable — with self-awareness, support, and new tools, many people go on to develop healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self.
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While each person’s experience is unique, common traits of codependency may include:
You may not relate to all of these traits — even recognising a few may suggest it’s worth exploring further.
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