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Attachment style test

Our early experiences with caregivers shape how we connect with others throughout life. If you find yourself struggling with trust, closeness, or emotional security in relationships, this self-assessment offers a private and supportive opportunity to reflect on your attachment patterns.

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What is attachment style?

Attachment style refers to the patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that develop in close relationships, based largely on early interactions with caregivers. These patterns influence how you trust, seek support, handle closeness, and manage emotional needs throughout your life.

Psychological research identifies four main attachment styles:

  • Secure attachment: Comfortable with closeness, trust, and independence.
  • Anxious attachment: Fear of abandonment, craving reassurance, and sensitivity to rejection.
  • Avoidant attachment: Discomfort with emotional closeness, valuing independence, and often suppressing emotional needs.
  • Fearful-avoidant (disorganised) attachment: A combination of wanting closeness but fearing it, often linked to trauma or inconsistent caregiving.

It’s important to understand that attachment styles are not fixed labels. They can change over time, especially through personal growth, healthy relationships, and therapeutic support.

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Common traits of different attachment styles

Secure attachment:

  • Comfortable with intimacy and autonomy
  • Able to communicate needs openly
  • Trusting and supportive in relationships

Anxious attachment:

  • Worry about being abandoned or unloved
  • Strong need for reassurance
  • Sensitivity to perceived rejection or emotional distance

Avoidant attachment:

  • Discomfort with depending on others
  • Preference for self-reliance
  • Difficulty expressing emotions or recognising emotional needs

Fearful-avoidant attachment:

  • Mixed feelings about intimacy
  • Desire closeness but fear getting hurt
  • Struggles with trusting both others and oneself

Recognising your attachment style can offer valuable insight into how you approach relationships and where you might benefit from developing new ways of connecting and communicating.

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